Gone Is The Long Babyhood

J LaughingRecently, J has taken ownership over his role as Big Brother. It used to be that M was crawling in all the wrong places (usually through J’s toys) and throwing all the wrong things (like J’s toys) and generally making a mess of things. But, as M has started walking more and crawling less, it’s as if her brother sees her differently. She’s no longer the baby who needs protection and redirection; she’s the little sister who is playing on J’s team. They run through the house and push toys all over the place. They squabble and squawk and giggle from one end of the house to the other. J’s imagination is on fire these days, and he thinks of all sorts of creative activities for them to do, which generally involve imagining that they’re repair people of some sort in large trucks. As hard-headed and opinionated as M is, she must not fully realize that J is organizing her play; she’s just glad to be allowed on his team.

What made me notice how much the play around here has changed is how J talks. Everything is “we” now. (We’re hungry. We want to go for a walk. We like peaches! We do not like to clean. We love dogs, Mama. We want more apples, please.) All this “we” business is adorable.

But, J also speaks for M about how she’s feeling or what she needs, which I actually find extraordinarily helpful. I can’t always see her signing or hear her babbling, so she’d developed a habit of just screaming until I came running. Now, J translates what she wants and yells it in my direction (usually in the kitchen). “MA-MA! M says she wants more blueberries, please!” I also find his translations sweet because he sees her pointing to her blueberries and signing more and he thinks to add the please part.

As with everything preemie-related, I catch myself watching them and traveling back in time. Two years ago, I couldn’t get much of a word out of J, and now he’s not only expressing his own needs in long sentences and paragraphs but he’s also expressing his sister’s needs. What happened to my tiny babies?

That long Preemie Babyhood that consumed the better part of four years is officially over.

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